Toxic parenting

I don’t have to be a parent to know this 🥴

The word toxic basically means something harmful, bad or poisonous. Toxic parenting has various meanings. To me, a toxic parent is a parent who is harmful to their children knowingly or unknowingly. We often blame “campus or college girls/boys” for having “sponsors and sugar mamies”. What some people don’t know is that most of the students are like this because of poor parenting. When a child grows up without the presence of a father figure in the family, some children especially girls when they are approached by a sponsor, they view them as their father figure. Same case for mothers and their sons. In this generation of baby mommas and baby daddys, kids tend to be raised by single parents thus when a mother comes to their life as sugar mamies, they view them as their mother figure, someone who cares for them and looks after them, to them the sex bit is not a big deal. Same case for girls and sugar daddys. However, this should not be an excuse for the students. If you had toxic parents, I believe you wouldn’t want your kids to go through what you went through. Instead you should try and be better than your parents. Take your experience as a lesson and always be their for your kids so that they don’t end up depending on sugar mamies or sponsors.

Let go and let God.

You don’t always need a plan. Sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go, and see what happens.Mandy Hale

When a star falls on your hands from the sky, it seeps through your veins and swims inside your blood and becomes every part of you. But then you have to let go and put it back into the sky where it belongs. This is the most painful thing you’ll ever have to do and that you’ve ever done.

Letting go is sooo hard, it can be a relationship, work, friend, dead relative /someone special or even personal staff such as clothes, shoes that don’t fit you anymore e.t.c.

If you want to fly in the sky, you need to leave the earth. If you want to move forward, you need to let go the past that drags you down.Amit Ray

I strongly agree with Amit Ray, because when you refuse to let go, you’ll cling on “that thing” and it will be hard for you to move on or start a fresh.

In the case of a loved one, letting go doesn’t mean you completely forget about them. Everyone has their own way of healing. For me, “I just think that they are in a better place, watching over me”. There is nothing we could do about it and if we could change the situation then we would.

God is always in control, our future is God’s past.

A Letter To My Father

Dear Dad,

So it’s July again… The month that you and mom went to rest from the sorrows and the tears in a place of warmth and comfort where there are no days and years.. All you left behind are just memories… Memories inform of pictures that talk of you.

You never made a fortune or noise… seeking after fame; But you had a healthy brood of daughters and a son Who loved the very ground on which you trod.

We’ll always remember that special smile,that caring heart,that warm embrace,you always gave us.You being there for Mom and us,through good and bad times,no matter what.

I will grow up, gain weight, fall in love, have kids. But my love for you will never change. My love for you will remain. I love you,Dad.

May your beautiful soul rest in eternal peace .Forever in my heart 😍.

The Journey Begins

I am not trying to give an image of a fairy-tale, perfect, everything else, I am just being myself.

I like being myself. Maybe just slimmer, with a few less wrinkles.It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton